Verbal abuse consists of constant criticism, name-calling and “put-downs”. It is also characterized by unjustified accusations, false accusations of infidelity or of having taken part in sexual acts, or threats of violence against the woman, her children, her friends, her family or her favorite pet.
"You're stupid! You never understand anything!"
Psychological abuse includes excessive jealousy. He attempts to control how his wife or his partner spends her time, her activities,and even how she styles her hair and dresses. Men who are psychologically abusive will try to limit who their wife visits or talks to on the phone, so that the woman is gradually isolated from relatives and friends. A victim of psychological abuse may also be harassed at her workplace by phone calls or visits, have prized possessions destroyed, be systematically denied sex or affection and her spouse, partner or lover may also threaten her that he will commit suicide. Moreover, the man can threaten the woman to take her children away. If the woman is an immigrant or refugee, he may threaten to have her deported.
"You're so lucky to have me. No other man would want anything to do with you!"
You feel depressed and you find it difficult to make decisions, even the smallest every day decisions?
Violence can affect physical and mental health, the ability to work, and the relationship with your children and relatives.
It's time to take care of yourself. Talk to someone.
Physical abuse include slapping, punching, pushing, biting or strangling his wife, or kicking her and threaten or injure her with a weapon or other object. Physical abuse can lead to death.
"He pushed me down the stairs."
In Canada, one in three women has already experienced physical or sexual violence from an intimate partner. Half of the women were seriously injured. (Statistics Canada)
You are not responsible and you did not provoke it.
You have the right to be safe and live a life free from violence.
Sexual violence occurs when the woman is forced or coerced in an intimate relationship without her consent or suffers pain or injury during sexual intercourse. It may also include being infected with HIV, AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases because the husband or partner refuses to use condoms, or he does not tell his partner that he has or could be a carrier of a disease.
"Whenever I refused to have sex, he wouldn’t speak to me for three days.”
Certain women are more likely to experience sexual violence.
It is estimated that up to 75% of Aboriginal girls were sexually assaulted. (National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, 2008)
It is estimated that 83% of women with disabilities will be sexually assaulted during their lifetime. (National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, 2004)
Financial abuse occurs when a spouse forbids his partner to work, prevents her from becoming or remaining independent, denies her any access to resources or financially exploits her.
Spiritual abuse is a form of abuse which, amongst others, occurs when the husband prevents his wife from participating in religious practices of her choice or by making fun of her spiritual values and beliefs.
Ritual abuse is characterized by repetitive and methodical acts, which often include physical, psychological, emotional and sexual violence against women within a sect or a cult. Le Petit Robert defines a cult as: "A closed community, with spiritualist intents, where guides or leaders impose absolute control over members." (translation)
You do not deserve to suffer from violence, to be insulted, abused, exploited, ridiculed, beaten. You are not alone.
Understanding what is going on is the first step.
Take that first step. Talk to someone about it. Break the silence.
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